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The 2 Keys To Strong Game

March 20, 2012

Most of the gaps in a man’s game can be attributed to one of two things.

1. Weak inner game
2. Inexperience

These tie in closely with two of our greatest fears, public speaking and death. To get to the root of the problem, we need to understand the basis of these fears.

First, why are we afraid of public speaking? We’re afraid of pubic speaking because we’re afraid of rejection.  We’re afraid of the audience rejecting our message. We’re afraid they’ll think we’re stupid, ignorant, ugly. Back in the day, like in the paleolithic days, rejection by the crowd was possibly a death sentence, at the very least it would prevent us mating.  That was a pretty big deal back then. Some people don’t have this fear. How did they overcome it? They practiced public speaking and developed strong inner game. They know they’re delivering a good message. They know most crowds love their message. If a particular crowd is not impressed they know the problem is with the crowd, not with them.

Second, why are we afraid of death? We’re afraid of death because we don’t know what comes next.  We’re inexperienced.  Do we go to heaven or hell? People who overcome this fear fall into two categories.  Those whose belief in some religion’s prediction of the afterlife is so strong that they know they’ll go to heaven or the Elysian Fields or whatever. The second group is those who don’t really care. Those who know that only life matters now and that every religion’s prediction of the afterlife is so absurd that there’s no point in fearing it.

I hope you’re starting to see how these translate back to game. Weak inner game is mostly the fear of rejection.  Men who are afraid of rejection don’t approach, or they supplicate when girls test their limits. Men with strong inner game approach. They call girls out on their shit. They know that girls are lucky to be getting hit on by them. Inexperience in game also leads to many failures.  Even with strong inner game, an inexperienced man may misread signals, go too fast, or more likely too slow. Experience with girls can fix all of this. When you’ve approached dozens of girls under the same circumstances, you know what to expect and how to parry any reaction from the girl.

So what can a man start doing today to fix these faults in his game?

1. Improve his self-esteem
2. Practice, Practice, Practice

I’ll bet good money that men with good game are less likely to be afraid of both public speaking and death.

6 Comments leave one →
  1. March 21, 2012 8:13 am

    Great points.I totally follow as to how everyone alive has no experience with dying.

    Overall,it comes down to gaining experience in life,and actually being social in order to curb the fear of public speaking(to an extent).

  2. March 22, 2012 8:31 pm

    You are correct.

    I tell guys to practice by mildly flirting with cashiers at supermarkets and stores. Just shoot for making them smile. No escalation, just a smile and laugh. If she’s not into talking to you….you’ll know and just drop it.

    Did I mention I was EMT instructor before?

    Everyone’s born, and everyone dies. It’s what you do with the middle that counts no point worrying about something you have no control over.

    Great post hermano.

  3. Jason permalink
    March 25, 2012 4:24 pm

    That begs the question should you hit on fat and ugly to improve your game?

    • March 28, 2012 12:53 pm

      @Jason I would have to say yes. The ladder method is great as long as guys don’t get comfortable on the fuglies. I’ve seen it too many times, dudes see success with fatties/milfs and thats all they hit.

  4. May 19, 2013 8:32 pm

    So much of game comes down to self esteem and experience. And they also feed off of each other. The more experience you have doing something, the more confident you become. And the more confident you are, the more you take action which leads to experience. It’s a virtuous cycle. It can also become a vicious cycle that drags a guy down when he lacks one or both: he gets the same poor results or lack thereof for a long, long time because his lack of experience and lack of confidence are contributing to each other.


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