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Stop Asking Girls For Numbers!

September 8, 2011

I’ve thought of a great exercise for men who are just starting to improve their game.  Stop asking for numbers, at least for a while.  Why the hell would I tell a man who wants to get better with women that he needs to stop trying to get phone numbers?  Because it will improve his ability to pick up women in the future.

When a man with little game attempts to pick up a woman he feels nervous mostly because he’s afraid of rejection at the end of the interaction.  If he isn’t trying to get her number or more, then there is no possibility of rejection and thus no nervousness associated with the potential of rejection.  He will be able to act normal and let his personality shine without his confidence being compromised.  He will be able to enjoy the process because he won’t be focused on an outcome.

If you’re a beginner in this game, you should try this technique.  Set a goal you want to reach before you start asking for numbers again.  Maybe you have to talk to 20 girls before you start asking for numbers again.  Maybe you must have a girl offer you her number.*  Just don’t sell yourself short and set an easy goal.  I’m confident that after you try this you’ll be more comfortable talking to women and your game will have noticeably improved.  Getting the number should be an afterthought.  You’re talking to this girl because you want to find out if she’s as interesting as she is pretty.  If she passes your screening then you can consider getting her number to take her out.

*When you regularly have cute girls offer you their numbers, then you can safely say you’ve moved beyond the beginner stage.  Time to try another good technique.

3 Comments leave one →
  1. Silent_Scope permalink
    September 8, 2011 9:33 am

    Holee shit. This is good. I mean I still feel like a goober sometimes when I end an interaction without asking for the digits, but other times it’s blatantly obvious that I’m not going to get it anyways.

  2. samseau permalink
    September 11, 2011 7:29 pm

    old idea

    K: damn

  3. Brian permalink
    November 26, 2011 2:38 am

    I don’t even have the main objective of asking for a number at all (for me this feels more natural to my personality and less like it’s trying for a “stick-up” pick-up). I just approach, have a brief conversation, and then (naturally like I just got the idea) invite them to go somewhere sometime (and make plans on the spot to meet). Then, maybe getting a number is only if a follow up call is required to decide when to meet.

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