Why Girls Aren’t as Pretty as They Think
One consequence of the current SMP is that women drastically overestimate their own beauty. This is something that may be innate, but the current SMP lets it run wild. Other writers in the manosphere have suggested that females universally overrate themselves because it enables their hypergamy. The female 5 chases male 7s because she truly believes she’s a 7. Most male 7s will readily have sex with female 5s, so this reinforces the 5s inflated perception of herself.
It’s important for both men and women to understand how and why this happens. Both men and women will experience more fulfilling relationships if they can accept this reality and work to correct it.
In the United States, I can identify 3 different levels of overpricing among American women. The first level is common among country girls. This is the natural level of female overpricing. Girls from Latin America or Southeast Asia will often have a similar level of overpricing. In order to illustrate the dynamic, I’ve modified a graphic I took from Hooking Up Smart.
As you can see, girls at this level of self-delusion aren’t too bad; they typically overprice themselves by only one point. It’s easy for these girls to discover what their true level is and they are usually the happiest of all girls. Once they figure out their true beauty, they can usually find a man at this level and settle down.
The next level is common among American women from the suburbs of larger cities and from smaller cities. This level is enabled by two things, solipsism and horny men. Girls believe that men are attracted to the same qualities girls are attracted to, so they believe their education, career and social circle make them more attractive to men. Those things mean practically nothing to men. Ferdinand already covered this in the eternal solipsism of the female mind. Horny men come into the picture because men are usually more than happy to have sex with women who rate below them. Girls don’t have sex with men below them at nearly the same rate as men, so they assume a 7 man sleeping with them means they’re at least a 7.
These girls usually overrate themselves by 2 points. This is why PUAs teach men about negs. It is almost impossible for a man to pick up a girl at his level without showing her that she’s overrated herself. Towards the bottom of this scale, we see the origins of the bitter beta male. A female 4 believes she’s a 6 and won’t deign to date a male 4. A male 4 would have to go down to a female 2 if he wants sexual release. Porn is more pleasurable than a female 2, so the male 4 ends up spending hours in front of youporn while the girls he should be dating are getting pumped and dumped by the types of guys who used to bully him in high school.
The final level is common in big cities like NYC and DC. It’s really just a more severe version of the 2nd level. These girls get approached even more because they’re in dense population centers, and they’re even more likely to have advanced education and a prestigious job. Unfortunately, “I’m one year away from being a partner at Cravath”, does absolutely nothing for a man. In fact, the type of personality needed to be very successful in law or business is often a turn off for men. These girls seldom end up happy.
Because the typical girl at this level overrates herself by 3 points, men in these areas need tight game to pick up girls who are more attractive than their hands. The lower ranked males in these areas have almost no chance. They retreat into world of warcraft and reddit meet ups. They hate on men who have developed the game to actually get laid in these cities. It’s a sad environment, so sad that some men decide they’d rather move to Poland than fight for these mediocre girls.
What’s the point of all this? Ladies, identify the chart that corresponds to the type of area you live or grew up in. Chances are, you overrate yourself by the same amount. I know you’re tempted to think “I’m a special little snowflake” and believe that you have an accurate view of your own beauty. You don’t. For 10 women who believe that, 1 is right and 9 are overpricing themselves. This is important because if you spend too much time getting pumped and dumped by men who are out of your league, your long-term value to other men declines.
Men, you have your work cut out for you. If you live in a big city, you will have to develop super tight game. I don’t recommend you find a wife from an area like that. If you want a wife, your best bet is in the suburbs or on the farm.