What can a man add to his game to make it more effective? I was thinking about this and I recall three conditions under which I was able to get laid more easily by supplementing my game with something extra.
1. Being Very Fit
During a brief period in the winter of 2008-2009, I was in the best shape of my life. I worked out 7 days per week and ate right almost all the time. I had one cheat meal per week, french toast on Wednesdays. During this time, I got a lot of female attention based almost entirely on being in good shape. My game was much weaker back then, but girls were willing to overlook that because I had nice muscles.
2. Being Seen with Attractive Women
Girls always give me more signals when I’m with another girl. One of my close friends is an attractive girl. Putting up with her flaky girliness and paying her way many times were all worth it for all the times she helped me get laid.
If you find a particularly masochistic girl, you can even get away with bringing her out with you on a “date”. But you really just brought her so she can get you attention from other girls. Game those other girls as far as you like/can while masochistic girl is distracted by other people in the venue.
3. Being Popular/Famous
I moonlighted as a club promoter for a couple of years. When 90% of the people in the place know who you are and are there because of you, the job is almost already done for you. It’s like you’ve already given her your best game. When you go up and talk to her, you’ll get a pretty strong signal about how she feels about you. The signal is usually positive. Often, the girl is nervous talking to you. Look for the involuntary eye shake, if you get it all you have to worry about is making her comfortable enough to bang.
Of these three, one is the easiest to attain but gets you the lowest quality girls. Ugly girls tend to emphasize looks-relative to their own-more so than more attractive girls. Three is the hardest to attain but brings you the most attractive girls. If this was easy there wouldn’t be men willing to pay thousands of dollars for a weekend workshop on the subject.
Unless you have great genetics and/or take steroids, being very fit is difficult to maintain without sacrificing much of what makes life enjoyable. Try it yourself and see. You should maintain your fitness but you’ll probably be happier if you don’t push it too far. Maybe that’s just the excuse I tell myself so I don’t have to do anything about my alcoholism. Either way, getting fit should be a priority if you’re not already there. I recommend Atkin’s if you need to lose a lot of fat fast.
Being seen with talent requires the ability to get talent, either by one of these three methods or by good game. I recommend the latter as your default method. Condition two works by trading up. Being seen with a 5 helps you pick up a 6, being seen with a 6 helps you pick up a 7, etc. In big cities, men will even hire beautiful women to go to clubs. The beautiful women serve to get the attention of other beautiful women and help these men pick up. Many women will have the knee jerk reaction to shame these men. Look at yourselves in the mirror ladies, this technique wouldn’t work if it wasn’t for your own foolishness.
The third condition requires famous friends/parents, notoriety, some great skill or just dumb luck. Most of you will need to concentrate on the skill. The good news is that the skill can be almost anything, the bad news is that it must truly be a great skill. You can be a great bullshitter and become a club promoter, or a great quarterback and become a professional football player. With enough fame, you can get laid using negative game. I am not exaggerating. Just go back and read Tiger’s texts. If it wasn’t for his great skill at golf, Tiger would have barely lost his virginity.
If you don’t have any of these three, what should you do. Easy. Go out and game. If you have all three of these, what should you do. Go out and game WITHOUT that advantage. Wear clothes that don’t show how fit you are, go out alone and do it in a place where no one recognizes you. Good game will serve you far better in life. Even if you’re young and famous now, one day you will be old and “who the fuck was that guy?” It’s natural to use the advantages we have but we should prepare for a day when we don’t have them.
“One can find women who have never had one love affair, but it is rare indeed to find any who have had only one.” Francois de La Rochefoucauld
With all the different red flags that women throw up, it’s impossible to make a comprehensive list. However, one thing stands out as an automatic disqualifier for anything but the most debased relationship where you make her reenact scenes from Deliverance, rolling around in mud wearing a pig mask. If she cheated on an ex. How a man can take any woman like this seriously is beyond me. Come on men! This is instinct. A guy will tell himself, “she was cheating on her last boyfriend with me so it’s ok.” No it’s not. Stick a fork in her, she’s done. She is not wifey material.
Someone is going to get all butt-hurt and say that everyone deserves a second chance. Ok, maybe that’s true. For any man reading this, I want you to ask yourself if she deserves that second chance with you. Sure, she deserves a second chance, but do you deserve to be the one who gives it to her. Are you such a scum bag that you deserve to be the one who gives a whore a second, third or fourteenth chance? Family and marriage law are already far too biased against men. Add a wife with a track record of infidelity to that mix and you’re asking to get screwed. You’re better off alone.
“Chastity – the most unnatural of all the sexual perversions.”
One of the dangers of womanizing is overindulgence. Players get too much of a good thing. When you get too much of a good thing, you no longer appreciate it. This is why you hear so many players talk about burning out on the game or losing the spark. Their senses have become dull to sex. The physical and emotional rush associated with seduction have been lost.
I don’t know the cure for this. Stepping back from the game or hunting big game can help recover the spark, but that is just treating the symptom. I don’t know of any way to continue hardcore womanizing without diminishing that spark. Seduction just becomes mechanical. The rush is lost. Maybe it’s only a symptom that thrill seekers experience, but only thrill seekers will push the game far enough to ever find out.
You will reach the critical stage of overindulgence before your habits have time to catch up. You will go through the usual routine of seducing girl, only to find that you are not mentally aroused when you start having sex with her. You will lose the motivation to bang her even if you are still physically aroused.
I’m not trying to scare men off from the game. I wholeheartedly recommend that every man give it a shot. Without game, a male can never be considered a man. But manhood has its price.
So you want to bang an Asian chick?
I’ve banged a lot of Asian girls, at least 9 that I can remember. Asian girls usually go for me hard. These experiences have given me some valuable insights that I wish to share with other men. I know a lot of guys have an Asian fetish, I’m not one of them; I’m less attracted to Asian girls than the average man is. But I do find many of them attractive, and anyway, my d!ck wasn’t going to suck itself.
First, let’s divide Asian girls into American-born and foreign-born. Any girl who was born in another Anglo country or has lived in one for 5 years can probably be lumped into the American-born category for the sake of analysis. Foreign-born Asians are ridiculously easy to seduce. They’re so naive and American men are so used to ball-busting American chicks that bedding them should come easy. If you can speak a bit of their language, your d!ck is practically already wet. With a Chinese girl, I would always drop some Mandarin early in the conversation and win her over. These girls do try to turn things around and control you, but their manipulation is so weak compared to American fembots that they might as well just roll over on their backs when they meet you.
American-born Asian girls are almost the complete opposite of foreign-born girls. It’s like all Asian girls have testicles hidden inside of them and it takes drinking American water to make those testicles descend. The misandrist garbage I heard from American-born Asians makes me want to kill a hooker just to balance things out a bit. But I digress. Asian girls shit test like white girls who are 2 or 3 points greater in looks. I hypothesize this is because of the subset of American men who go for Asian chicks hardcore and artificially inflate their egos. You need to be the man to bed an American-born Asian. Being a cruel emotionally manipulative bastard helps because these girls also play a lot of games, way more than white girls. You will break hearts if you succeed at figuring out American-born Asians.
Now, how about sex? Asian girls aren’t any better at it on average than white girls. But the rumors you’ve heard about Asian chicks being tight are true. I’ve never been with a loose Asian chick, and a couple of the Asian chicks I was with were definitely sluts. Sometimes they’re too tight and it ruins the sex.
I should add the caveat here that I can pass for half Asian so the ease with which I’ve bedded Asians may not translate to everyone. I’m very masculine compared to most Asian men and I have the academic background Asian parents would require for a potential son-in-law so these may factor in as well. My academic background didn’t seem to be a focus for Asian girls, and they didn’t mention masculine characteristics as much as white girls but ALL of them said something about the fact that I looked part Asian.
I’m agnostic on the whole issue of immoral/dark game vs moral/light game. Whatever gets the job done for you, go with it. Anyone who observed me back in the day would have said I practiced dark game, I think I just approached game amorally, the same way girls do.
There were two main drivers behind my game
1. My feelings
2. Manipulating the girl’s feelings
My first priority was making myself feel good, both physically and emotionally. This meant that the girl’s emotional state had very little bearing on my own happiness. Of course, there was occasionally a girl who was so sweet that it hurt me to hurt her, so I let her go. However, most girls weren’t sweet enough to elicit sympathy in me. I used them as vessels for my own pleasure. I wanted to feel good and there was something wrong with any girl who didn’t contribute to my pleasure.
The second driver of my game was emotional manipulation. I took my own natural Machiavellian intelligence, added in what I learned from game and became a master of the crimson arts. In my mind, I have a very good model for how women will react to different actions/words or lack thereof. With the end goal of sex in mind, I would trace back all the different emotional paths that led from where I was to sex with my target. Most of these paths were emotional roller coasters for the girl involved, indeed, even when the end goal is happy marriage, women often require emotional roller coasters to get there.
At the time, I felt good about what I was doing. Now, I don’t really feel anything about it. The only guilt I feel is about the few nice girls that I hurt, and that’s guilt I felt back then as well. I view my past with neutrality. I don’t regret it. I would probably advise a man with weak game to follow a similar path, if only because it’s the only one I know well.
Most of the gaps in a man’s game can be attributed to one of two things.
1. Weak inner game
These tie in closely with two of our greatest fears, public speaking and death. To get to the root of the problem, we need to understand the basis of these fears.
First, why are we afraid of public speaking? We’re afraid of pubic speaking because we’re afraid of rejection. We’re afraid of the audience rejecting our message. We’re afraid they’ll think we’re stupid, ignorant, ugly. Back in the day, like in the paleolithic days, rejection by the crowd was possibly a death sentence, at the very least it would prevent us mating. That was a pretty big deal back then. Some people don’t have this fear. How did they overcome it? They practiced public speaking and developed strong inner game. They know they’re delivering a good message. They know most crowds love their message. If a particular crowd is not impressed they know the problem is with the crowd, not with them.
Second, why are we afraid of death? We’re afraid of death because we don’t know what comes next. We’re inexperienced. Do we go to heaven or hell? People who overcome this fear fall into two categories. Those whose belief in some religion’s prediction of the afterlife is so strong that they know they’ll go to heaven or the Elysian Fields or whatever. The second group is those who don’t really care. Those who know that only life matters now and that every religion’s prediction of the afterlife is so absurd that there’s no point in fearing it.
I hope you’re starting to see how these translate back to game. Weak inner game is mostly the fear of rejection. Men who are afraid of rejection don’t approach, or they supplicate when girls test their limits. Men with strong inner game approach. They call girls out on their shit. They know that girls are lucky to be getting hit on by them. Inexperience in game also leads to many failures. Even with strong inner game, an inexperienced man may misread signals, go too fast, or more likely too slow. Experience with girls can fix all of this. When you’ve approached dozens of girls under the same circumstances, you know what to expect and how to parry any reaction from the girl.
So what can a man start doing today to fix these faults in his game?
1. Improve his self-esteem
2. Practice, Practice, Practice
I’ll bet good money that men with good game are less likely to be afraid of both public speaking and death.
Nice guy game works. Why don’t most nice guys get laid? Because they’re not really nice. They just think that’s how they need to act to get sex. They prostrate themselves for girls because they expect it to lead to sex.
Why do real nice guys get laid? Because they’re not needy, they’re just genuinely nice people. I have a couple of friends like this. They don’t get laid as often as a man running asshole game, but they’re not starved for sex the way your typical “nice” guy chump is. How can you tell the difference between genuine nice guys and chump nice guys? Genuine nice guys have self-respect. They will comply with reasonable requests from anyone, but will call people out on their rudeness whether they’re male or female. Fake nice guys will only call out their male friends, but will let girls walk all over their balls if they think it’ll lead to sex.
Think through the nice guys you know. Classify them by real nice vs. fake nice. I guarantee you’ll find that the genuine nice guys have a large number of female friends and don’t struggle for dating options. Girls push, they test your limits. You either lay down the lay and get laid, or you let them walk all over you and go home to masturbate. Genuine nice guys HAVE SELF-RESPECT. For all the nice things they do, they still put a girl in place when she steps out of line.